Last week was Nick’s first week back to work full-time. I was horrified and excited to figure out what solo parenting these peanuts would be like… I had ups & downs and endured multiple meltdowns (myself included).
Having a newborn & a toddler is just as crazy as it sounds. But there were things that definitely made the week easier.
What’s Helped Me Survive
- Mocha Overnight Oats
This has been INCREDIBLE for several reasons:
1) I don’t have to make breakfast for myself in the morning (it’s made the night before).
2) I get caffeine (there’s coffee in it).
3) I get protein (there are oats & almond milk in it).
4) It’s delicious (chocolate).
I’ll be posting this recipe in the days to come, but I’m sure you can whip it together with the gist I just gave you. And it tastes amazing.
PS how have I never thought about putting coffee in with the milk when I make overnight oats?? Brilliant.
- Toddler Toys
More specifically, toys that keep my 2 year old pre-occupied. The toys that have done this the best is a little bowling set I got him and the “gone fishing” game.
- Emails & Texts
I apologize to all my wonderful friends who have left voicemails and haven’t heard back from me. As I’ve said plenty, I’m a zombie right now and lack energy for phone conversation. But what’s kept me totally sane has been being able to text and email girlfriends. Even if I don’t have energy for coffee dates or long phone chats, I love that I get some friend time this way.
The best thing I’ve been able to do over the last week has been remind myself that this season is temporary. With that, I not only begin to cherish the really little, beautiful moments, but I also find relief in knowing that things will get easier. Kai WILL sleep through the night one day and he WILL be less fragile/needy as time goes on. One day my boys will be old enough to play together and I won’t be hanging by a thread trying to cater to them both separately at once. Of course different challenges come with different seasons… but the challenges of this season will soon be over.
Finding beauty in things as little as my morning coffee… or our new fall candle that makes our home smell like the holidays. Finding gratitude in things as big as my two precious, healthy boys & my amazing community. Looking for beautiful moments, even when I’m tired and cranky, has been surprisingly simple.
- Comedic Relief
Thank you, Mindy Project and New Girl for giving me some quality laughs while I’m on the verge of meltdown.
- Baby Carrier
Kai lives in the Ergo. Apparently I’ve got an intense snuggler on my hands… he loves being upclose and personal so whenever he gets fussy I just put him in the Ergo (that literally glues him to my chest) and all is calm again.
Last, but certainly not least (in fact, the most helpful), our community has been vital. We are unbelievably grateful for dear friends & family who have dropped by to say hello, bring meals, groceries &/or help with the boys… I don’t know how we’d make it without you.
What’s Been Difficult
Trying to put down a 2 year-old while caring for a hungry/crying 3 week-old feels pretty close to impossible when you’re the only parent home. Hopefully I’ll get a good routine down for this soon.
- Getting Out
Getting out of the house has been very difficult, but at the same time, absolutely vital to survival. Even if it’s as simple as going on a walk with the boys in the morning… nothing frees you from the feeling of house arrest quite like actually getting out of the house.
That’s my gist for week 1 of solo parenting.
My goals for this week are to shower every day and get out of the house at least once per day. Already excited to figure out somewhat of a routine 🙂
Would love to hear from you! What’s helped other mom’s during this transition?